My good friend Maria introduced the study of the Law of Attraction to me this summer. In the wake of recent events that have happened in my personal life since returning back to Toronto, I have been drawn to a few ways about how to maintain a life of happiness, and positive thinking. At last, today, feeling hungover, uneasy, and rather remorseful (to be perfectly honest) I decided that if there was ever a time I needed a burst of inspiration at my fingertips, it was now. And so, the yearn for understanding the Law began.
Being both hyper-sensitive and hyper-aware makes for a conflicting combo. I know exactly what the hell is going on to a point that I know things I'm feeling are ridiculous, yet I have to feel them anyways. It's almost like I'm too conscious for my own good. However, being the emotionally exploding person that I am (it's touching on the best of days and downright neurotic on the worst), has led to wonder if this is who I am right now or who I am bound to be indefinitely.
Acclaimed author Louise Hay is considered the mother of positive thinking. She states that "The law of attraction is that our thinking creates and brings to us whatever we think about. It's as though every time we think a thought, every time we speak a word, the universe is listening and responding to us." In simpler words, the law of attraction is a way of life. The way you think and the way you react to situations. If you're a positive person, you get positive results. If you're a negative person, you get negative results.
Recently I have just cut out someone I have been so hopelessly in love with (or so I think it was love.) After a few good months, many not-so-perfect months, time in between where we should have been by ourselves, and a perfect weekend in New York, I have finally realized it was time to move on. He realized this a lot sooner than I did, but he did manage to stick around, although it was not fair -- to either of us. At 23 I know I'm young but I can't help that this all feels so...final. I may feel ever so mature at times, but mature -- the very word gets thrown around carelessly in our twenties; most of the time as a way to try and differentiate oneself when drama arises. I'm guilty of being the girl who cried maturity on several occasions but this time I don't want it to be total bullshit.
The thing I've taken out of the Law of Attraction is that we are responsible for our own happiness. We should not be dependent on another person to feel good. When a person is holding onto a particular something, they are operating out of fear. They are afraid to let go. When people break up, sometimes we mistakenly believe that love has left too. As a result, we become sad, fearful, needy, and insecure. Feeling that we need a person attracts the subconscious lack of love, fear, and unhappiness, instead of what we are actually looking for. If we train ourselves to look for positive aspects, we will find them in ourselves and in others. If we are trained to look for negative aspects, we will find them in ourselves as well as in others.
Ultimately, the goal of the Law of Attraction is to focus on improving yourself. Work on yourself. And love yourself. No need to be too narcissistic, but being at peace with who you are will bring wonderful things your way. You are as happy as you want to be. Nobody can make you feel bad unless you allow them to. We're not robots, of course, and memories are still memories. Hopefully with enough time apart to get over any residual enabling emotions, we can reach the shared goal of actually wanting to be friends. I rather be friends with shared memories than strangers with a shared past. Caring about somebody, for me at least, isn't an item that comes with an expiry date. Mistakes are only mistakes when we allow them to be, and now is when we should be making them. Live and learn is the simplest, yet truest saying there is and we twenty-somethings should be living those words to the fullest.
Good things come to those who seek them out...so get seeking. So yes, it's definitely important to feel through emotions, or at least to me it is. But I've realized, especially as of lately, that you can't just let them overtake everything. Granted, I still have a couple good cries left in me about what's happened, but I want to be happier today than I was yesterday, and the day before, and so on. The one thing all relationships have in common is that we learn about ourselves, our needs, our deal-breakers, within them. While I am nowhere near recovered yet, I know that one day I'll look back on this situation now, turn to my new boyfriend Joseph Gordon-Levitt and say "Well I'm glad I did that!"
